Posted on cohost May 31 2023
I think it's interesting to think about what kink fantasies different people would and wouldn't actually want irl.
For me, I'm very far on the side of only wanting things in fantasy. Hopefully obvious that I don't want to actually die like some of my kinks result in, or be stuck as an object forever.
But even outside of that, I'm very skittish irl, and kind of a baby about any discomfort. And irl anxiety kills my libido. If you start touching me and I'm uncertain about what you're doing to do, or what's expected of me, that will be not fun. Even though that uncertainty could be exciting in fantasy.
I think some folks are on the extreme other end, where they'd consider the realization of their fantasies to just be better. Most common with with more vanilla fantasies, but feel like I've seen this in the vore community too, a pred saying they don't get digestion because they'd be sad their friend is gone. Which is just, thinking about vore in a much realer way than would occur to me.
Even in cases where I'm trying to think realistically about the act of digestion itself, and what the consequences are, I'm still not thinking about it with a realistic mindset. I'm not thinking the way I would if it was actually happening. To me, I like these kinks because they are in fantasy, it's a critical part of them.